Self-Care Styles for Parents

7 Self-care styles and how to use them

Self-care for busy parents can often seem like the bottom of the to-do list.

When our days get away from us through a series of unfortunate events, we can often forget that we too, need to be taken care of. We all have those days that completely drain us. Our children are sick or just having a bad day, work seems to be ramping up and we have not even thought about tackling the laundry yet. These are the days we often prioritise everyone else's needs ahead of our own, when in fact, we need to be filling our own cup first to truly help anyone else.

So on the days when you don't believe you have the time, energy or resources to look after yourself, what can you do?

Tip #1 - Breathing

Breathing is portable, easily available and cheap.

We all carry it wherever we go. It is a living process that breathes life into the present-time. Breathing can help you:

  • Focus on the present

  • Help us regulate emotions through acceptance

  • Reduce regrets by dwelling less on the past

  • Worry less about the future

  • De-escalate situations

It is true that often the most simplest solutions are the best and breathing is no exception. It is an exercise that in 30-seconds can make an impact on how you respond to a certain situation.

It is also something you can involve your child(ren) with. If you are holding your baby while practicing deep breathing, this can also help to slow down your babies heartrate.

Laura Crowley talks about how she blows away the elephant on her chest to help her toddler understand the importance of breathing.

Kelly talks about how we could replace our cigarette break in work with a breathing break to help remove ourselves from triggering situations and walk back with calm and clarity

There are many different breathing techniques that you can use for better self-care but the most important is you to figure out how to center yourself through the act of breathing to help you calm your mind. By focusing on the act of breathing itself, we are often transported to a more tranquil state where we can make better, more pro-active choices.